I hear what you're saying, and I agree with you. However, If I knew you well and liked you--which sounds like a possibility, by the way, to judge from what you write--I would not so much think of you as disabled as I would think of you as a person who has some specific requirements. I have some requirements that are different from yours, so we would need to get together and satisfy our respective needs if we were to hang out. I don't think my attitude would be one of dismissing you either because you are "disabled" or because you are "not disabled." I may be wrong about this, but I feel the same way about anyone who is different from me: different race (OK, different skin color and maybe facial structure; could be a different standard of beauty--how interesting), different culture (that's interesting--how is your culture different from mine; how are you different from me because of your culture), and so forth. Please let me know if I'm just being the able-bodied equivalent of a pain-in-the-ass.