Thanks for such a thoughtful response, Sharon. I am so very glad to know that my article did (is doing) some good. I must admit that my own attempts to help a relative become a responsible and happy adult failed. He apparently felt he had a right to call me a "fucking bitch;" lie to me about trying to find work (he was 22 years old by that time); and sign a contract that I drew up with the help of a very good therapist but that he also contributed to--and immediately violate it and laugh at me for even thinking he took it seriously. The problem was that I was the only member of his family trying to help him; his siblings and other members of the family had been enabling him for years and, to this day, still are.